self care

Haters gonna Hate (but what if it's you?)

So anyway…

Over the last week, I have noticed a few people making really negative comments about themselves.

I don’t like my figure

I don’t like my stomach

My wrinkles look awful on zoom (who does?)

I don’t like my hair

Just to name a few that come to mind.

Up until a few months ago, I was doing the same to myself, but then I decided to start treating those areas that I don’t like, with a bit more self care, body oils, taking better care of my nails. Has anything changed about me appearance? Well, yes! my skin doesn’t feel so dry, and I do find I’ve been making more mindful choices about food and how I fuel myself, because, no gets it right over Christmas and being in such close proximity to Quality Street. I will quite happily graze on chocolate til the cows come home.

So what can you do to get out of that rut?

Remember you are still alive. As drama queeny as it sounds, if you are alive, your are already a success.

I spoke with one lady this week, a new Mum, baby is 4 months old. She wasn’t happy with how her body was looking 4 months after giving birth. I have a lot of empathy for anyone who doesn’t like what they see in the mirror, as being menopausal, my confidence crashed really badly with regard to my appearance.

I gently reminded her, that she had must made a human, and that her body had made a brain, a heart and a spinal cord. How amazing is that!!!

Whatever your reason for not liking your body just now, here is a list of my go to’s for how to pick yourself up again.

Just get the basics right, brushing your teeth and moisturising your face (men too!)

Make sleep part of your day, and not just something you fit in

If you can’t find anything good on TV to watch, put it off, and get a book or magazine to read

Put yourself back to school in whatever you fancy. I have fallen down a crochet rabbit hole. Yes you read that right. All my friends are getting toilet roll holders for their birthday. Do you remember doing art at school? Or sewing? I bloody loved it. Why did I forget that? Who didn’t doodle on their jotters? Get doodling my friends.

Surround yourself with great scents. I am writing this with the smell of geranium coming out of a diffuser. Marvellous. Here’s a link to a the oil I am using.

Lavender and Cedarwood are also excellent for grounding if you feel you are too much in your head.

Drink water: I have to remind myself to do it, but a great party trick is to drink a big glass when you get up, before you have your coffee. It’s a good way to get a head start.

So anyway!

That will do for just now, I hope I have given you some good ideas on how to like your physical self a bit more. Get moisturising, and start loving those bits you don’t like just now.

Think about how much stagnant energy you may be trapping in those parts of your body you repeatedly say you don’t like. Oooft.

Onward!