Managing Stress: Finding Peace in the festive season

The holiday season is often depicted as a time of joy, togetherness, and celebration. However, for many, it can also bring stress, overwhelm, and a sense of imbalance. Add the challenges of short daylight hours, particularly in places like Scotland, and it’s no wonder that this time of year can feel heavy.

But there are practical tools and strategies that can help you anchor yourself, find calm, and remember the peace that exists within you. Here, we explore ways to manage stress and bring moments of light into the darker days.

1. Anchor Yourself in Calm Memories

One powerful stress-management tool is to anchor yourself by recalling a time when you felt peaceful and happy. Perhaps it was a summer walk along a beach, a quiet moment with a loved one, or simply sitting with a book on a sunny day, or even being in my treatment room!. Here’s how to use this tool:

Close your eyes and breathe deeply. Take three slow, deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth.
Visualise the memory. Picture the scene in vivid detail: the sights, sounds, smells, and emotions. Let yourself feel as though you’re there again.
Anchor the feeling. When you feel calm and happy, place your hand over your heart or hold a small object, like a smooth stone. This physical action helps to “anchor” the memory, so you can revisit it whenever you feel stressed.

By regularly practicing this, you can create a mental sanctuary that’s always available, no matter what’s happening around you.

2. Create a Routine That Embraces Winter’s Rhythms

Living in Scotland or any place with limited daylight during winter can have a significant impact on mental health. Reduced sunlight can lead to lower levels of serotonin, affecting mood and energy. While we can’t change the season, we can adapt to its rhythm.

Maximise daylight exposure. Take a short walk during the brightest part of the day, even if it’s cloudy. Natural light, no matter how dim, can help regulate your circadian rhythm.
Try light therapy. A lightbox designed for Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) can mimic natural sunlight and boost your mood.
Embrace the cosiness. Create a winter ritual that celebrates the season, like lighting candles, making warm drinks, or curling up with a favorite blanket and book.

3. Say “No” to Overcommitment

The pressure to do it all can make the holidays feel more like a marathon than a celebration. Simplify your commitments and focus on what truly matters to you.

Set boundaries. Politely decline events or tasks that don’t bring joy or align with your priorities.
Delegate where possible. Share responsibilities, whether it’s cooking, gift-wrapping, or decorating.
Prioritise self-care. Remember that rest and relaxation are just as important as productivity.

4. Practice Gratitude

Gratitude is a proven way to shift your focus from stress to positivity. At the end of each day, write down three things you’re grateful for. They don’t have to be big—a kind word, a delicious meal, or the sound of rain can all be sources of gratitude.

Focusing on what you appreciate can help you reframe challenges and cultivate a sense of contentment, even in difficult times.

5. Connect Authentically

The holidays are about connection, but quality matters more than quantity. Instead of spreading yourself thin, focus on deep, meaningful moments with loved ones.

Be present. Put away your phone and truly engage in conversations.
Share your feelings. It’s okay to let others know if you’re feeling overwhelmed. Vulnerability can strengthen bonds.
Create traditions. Simple, heartfelt rituals—like baking cookies together or watching a favorite movie—can bring joy and connection.

6. Move Your Body, Soothe Your Mind

Physical activity is a natural stress reliever. You don’t need an intense workout; gentle movement can be just as effective.

Try yoga or stretching. These practices combine movement with deep breathing, promoting relaxation.
Dance it out. Put on your favorite music and let loose. It’s a great way to boost your mood and energy.
Walk mindfully. Pay attention to the sensations of walking, the rhythm of your steps, and the world around you.

7. Seek Support When Needed

If you’re finding it hard to manage stress, remember that you don’t have to go through it alone. Speak to a trusted friend, family member, or professional. Sometimes, just sharing your feelings can lighten the load.

A Final Thought

The holiday season and winter months can be challenging, but they’re also opportunities to slow down, reflect, and care for yourself. By anchoring yourself in calm memories, embracing winter’s rhythms, and focusing on what truly matters, you can navigate this time with greater ease and joy.

Remember, moments of peace are always within reach—sometimes, all it takes is a deep breath and a quiet memory to guide you back to them.

Let me know if you find this useful!

Elizabeth x